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Dear Arizona – Month Seven (Find Your Passion)

Dear Arizona,

Welcome to seven months on planet earth. Every month I tell you what a joy and pleasure it is to raise you and be around your infectious smile and booming personality. I never expected being a parent to be like this. So many things are happening, your first Christmas is just around the corner and we are decorating and very excited. This past month you really started eating foods, no more boobie milk for you, you quit cold turkey and went to the foods! You are getting so big! You are starting to get teeth and you have not complained one bit.

FINDING YOU PASSION

Last month I told you to be yourself no matter what and never change for anyone. Well this month ties into that just a bit. I want you to try everything! Find something you are passionate about and like Nike says, “Just Do It!”

I literally mean anything! I don’t care if you play sports (but I would love it if you did), became an actor or a writer, or play an instrument and play music. Maybe you do all of the above, maybe you become a runner like your dad, race cars or motorcycles, or become a photographer like your mother. The possibilities are endless, just find something you love to do and have fun doing it.

DAD’S PASSIONS

When you get older, you are going to think you had one crazy dad, because he loves to do so many things. But honestly, at the end of the day, I just like to have fun. I am going to tell you a few of my passions and interests and why I do these things.

When I was young, probably about 9-10 years old, I was a very small (height wise) kid compared to most kids. I feel like I was the last person picked for teams and I was never really great at anything. I played little league baseball but I was not the greatest. I was not allowed to play football until the 7th grade because I was so small. In fact I played flag football and I love football (you will come to know this!). But it was not until the 4th grade when I started wrestling that my life changed.

I ended up wrestling all through high school and my first two years in college. After college I started doing Judo because it was so much like wrestling. I also started coaching wrestling and I did so for about 8 years. You see wrestling is an individual sport and wining or losing was all on me, I had no one to depend on and it was all up to me. I loved the physical aspects of it, it wasn’t until I was a JR in high school that I finally hit my growth spurt and that sport gave me confidence in myself. Wrestling is one thing that I am so very passionate about, I love teaching others and helping them achieve the goals they set. One of my proudest moments was helping a young student overcome all of the odds, the weight issues, and the perceptions of others to be a darn good wrestler.

My greatest passion you will also come to see is my love for motorcycles. For me it started when I was 14, my father brought home dirt bikes for all of us to ride. Yes your Grandma B was a dirt bike rider and a Harley Rider! Riding dirt bikes is one of those things that I just love to do. It is challenging and at the same time a bunch of fun for me. One of the things I want most in this world is for you to love motorcycles as much as I do. I hope you love riding dirt bikes and along with your brother, we get to tear up some trails when you get older.

I also love traveling the country on motorcycles. I have been doing this since I was 16 years old. This is something that is in our family blood. Your Grandpa & Grandma B taught me and took me on my first trip. Now 31 years later and we all still go places. We have been everywhere and I can’t wait to tell you and show you. My greatest hope is that when you turn 16, we can go on a road trip. You, your brother, and your mother and I, all on bikes traveling to some great place on an adventure.

So your dear old dad, loves adventures, we also ski (your brother is a boarder), we scuba dive, we hike, and we do everything as a family. As you can start to see, I am one who’s passions are of the physical variety. I also love running and doing OCR races.

MOM’S PASSIONS

I m sure your mother will have more to add to this, but your mother does have most of the same passions as me, bit I will tell you that the differences are the reasons why I love her so much. You mother loves books and reading, you will soon realize this when you see our home library. Your mom also loves photography. She love it so much, she started a business doing it and one of the reasons we have so many awesome family photos in our home.

But you will come to know that what your mothers biggest passion is, is being a teacher of young minds. This is why it is so important that you find a job in life that you love doing. Because it won’t seem like a job at all. Your mother is amazing to watch in action as she helps students and teach others to be better. It is almost like she has this superpower at school and at home she is just mom. Have a passion like this.

ASHER’S PASSIONS

We are still trying to figure out your brother. He is one of the smartest kids I have ever met. He is athletic as he is smart. He can play any sport once and be good at it. Right now he is bouncing around trying to find that one true passion. But here are a few that he keeps going back to.

Writing…he wants to be a journalist. So he loves creating stories. He also loves to read. He currently reads about 5 grade levels above his current grade which is awesome. He has a dirt bike, so far he loves riding it, so we shall see if it sticks.

IMPORTANCE OF PASSIONS

Not all passions have to be something you physically do. You could become a champion for animals, fight child abuse, or love gardening. I believe that once you find that passion, it gives you a purpose. You have something to look forward to and it makes you a happy person. Before I met your amazing mother, I was in a place where most all of my passions were taken away because the person I was around did not like those things. For a number of years I didn’t dirt bike, downhill ski, run or workout, didn’t scuba dive, and was made to feel guilty or shamed almost for wanting to explore new places and find foods I like (Burgers, Pizza, and Pie)!

When you find that one thing or numerous things that make you who you are, the reason it becomes important, is because without those things you become a shell of who you are. With them, you will have the most joy in life.

Arizona, I hope you find lots of passions in life and enjoy them to the fullest.

I love you baby girl!

Love Dad

Dear Arizona – Month Six (Be Yourself )

Dear Arizona,

Hello my darling daughter! Time is going by so fast! I can not believe you are six months old already! This month we watched you bounce in your bouncer, you laugh ALL the time (you are the happiest baby ever!), and you started what resembled a crawl. You continue to amaze me beyond words. I never thought raising you would be so much fun.

I can’t help but show you this video. This is what I look forward to everyday with you. You already learn so fast and watching you laugh is about the greatest thing ever.

BE YOURSELF

So far up to this point, I have given you advice on how I feel you should live your life. Most of this is modeled after how your mother and I live ours. We have covered singing, kissing and hugging, laughing, exploring, and being kind so far. Most of these life lessons to you are all about being your true self.

We want you to march to your own beat, please don’t be afraid to be yourself because others don’t find that to be “their standard”. Wear the clothes you want to wear, listen to the music you want to listen to, and do the things you want to do. I want you to be a leader, not a follower. Be a trend setter (like your mom) and not a trend follower.

Don’t ever take crap from anyone that say’s you can’t “do” anything. Because I am telling you, you can do whatever you want in this life. While I will admit there are some things I would love for you to take up like your dear old dad, like riding motorcycles or wrestling, but if you find you have your own interests you want to pursue, then I will always be behind you 100%. Now if you feel you need pink hair or half a shaved head, then so be it…I may abject at times, but I want you to always be you.

You have the best personality, it is so vivacious and infectious, that people are going to want to be in your orbit, they are going to want to hang out with you. I can see it already.

BOYS

Boys are going to com into your life at some point. You will probably kiss a bunch of frogs before you find the prince you are looking for. I am sure I will also have my share of rejections for you (ha ha). But the one thing I really want you to remember is that you have to always be yourself and not change for anyone. I know it happens, it happened to me once, I totally stopped doing the things that made me, me. I became a version of myself that I didn’t like and I longed to do the things I had done my whole life. When you change for someone, it makes you resentful and bitter at some point. That is negativity you just do not need.

You mother is an odd duck. But I love that duck none the less. Because she is an oddball is why I love her so much. I don’t want her to be like every other person out there, I don’t want a follower of what I like either, we have the perfect mix and it also helps that we love most of all of the same things. You mother is one of a kind find and I am so lucky to have her in my life. Someday, I hope someone says the exact same thing about you.

Arizona, I love you. Be yourself.

Love Dad.

Dear Arizona – Month Three (Explore & Adventure)

Dear Arizona,

I can’t believe it has been three months already. I have to tell you that you are the best baby on the planet! I am not just saying that because you are my child, but you have been so easy. You sleep, you smile, and you are rarely upset about anything. You are growing like a weed!

Some of the things your absolutely enjoy doing are taking a bath and telling your stories. I know you are not talking yet, but you sure are trying. It is amazing watching you grow everyday.

I labeled this month Explore and Adventure because I want you to continue seeing the world, long after we stop doing it with you. One of the biggest bonding times on my side of the family was when we traveled. When I was younger it was in a car but a when I turned 16, I traveled the country on my motorcycle. To date I have probably traveled over 30,000 miles on motorcycles. That thrill of adventure has never left me. I have spent most of my life traveling and seeing things. My favorite are the wacky roadside attractions.

Why am I telling you this? Well I want you to travel and seek our adventures of your own. When I met your mother, I learned she loved to travel just as much as I do and together we have the most fun I have ever had exploring and finding new things. You are just a mere 3-months old and you have been to two different states already.

It was a busy month for sure. We traveled to Roswell, NM to visit your grandma (no she is not an alien) (yes that is another story when you are older). We then traveled to the Carlsbad Caverns and yes you went down in the caverns (I carried you!), we went to the Smokey the Bear Museum and learned the story behind him and forest fires. We hiked mountains in Albuquerque, NM and saw a rattlesnake. We went to the Billy the Kid Museum in the Lincoln State Park and saw lava at the Valley of Fires National Park. You also experienced Penny’s Diner!

Lincoln State Monument
Carlsbad Caverns
Valley of Fires National Park
Carlsbad Caverns National Park
Penny’s Diner

I hope you wanderlust like the sign in our living room says, I hope you love to see new things and obtain knowledge and the history behind everything. I hope you never stop exploring, never stop going on adventures, and never stop traveling.

Love Dad

Dear Arizona – Month Two (Hugs & Kisses)

Dear Arizona,

Two months and I can not begin to tell you how much you have changed my life. I will probably say this everytime I write a post about you this year, but everytime it will be true. I am still in awe of this little human I created with your mom and how you grow every day. I can’t stop hugging and kissing on you and when I am hugging you, I feel like I need to use my bear hug as a shield to protect you from everything.

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Wow…two months old and you are growing like crazy. It is hard to look back and imagine you being born at a mear 5lbs. It is the beginning of July and you already take after your mother and me. You love to be outside in the warm air and in the pool. You also love to be naked, which is probably par for the course because if it wasn’t for you kiddos, I would be too. Your mother and I love the sun also, we worship the sun in the summers and love the outdoors.

It’s been a busy month two for you, you ran with your mom in three (3) 5k races, finishing in 3rd place in one (age group), your grandparents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary, and you were at your first Star Wars laser light show and orchestra. You even slept through the fireworks!

I titled this months words of wisdom “Hugs and Kisses” because I want you to know one thing; always believe it is okay to hug and kiss others, especially family and friends. I grew up in a fairly affectionate family. We hug a lot, I still kiss my mom when I say goodbye and I always tell my parents and your mom, your brother, and you, that I love you. I want you to know that it is okay to have your heart on your sleeve. Hug your friends and more than anything hug your family.

HUGS

When I grew up in Michigan, friends didn’t hug each other all that much. It wasn’t until I moved to Texas where it was socially acceptable to hug your friends. Especially for men to hug, it makes some people uneasy, but I don’t care and if you are my friend, I will hug you. I want you to have a family of your own one day and I hop you hug and kiss your children. I hope you always know you were loved and that we show you as well as tell you. I hope you never outgrow hugging your dear old dad or never get too “cool” to do so. I remember in high school after my wrestling matches, I would always go up in the stands and hug my mom. When I got my first dirt bike, I ran and jump into a bear hug with my dad. I hope you do these things things as well.

We have a family of love, we hug, we kiss, we cuddle during movies, and we always let the others know how we feel, especially when leaving for the day for school or work. Just know it is okay and never be ashamed or embarrassed to tell us in front of others. I hope you always feel safe when hugging me or your mom and I hope as you become a mother yourself, you never stop hugging your own children.

Funny story I have to share, on the day you were born, I could not wait to hold you. In fact I knew all about the skin contact and how important it was to bond with your baby. When they asked me if I was ready, I was in the chair, with my shirt off (yes skin to skin is very important) ready to go!!

KISSES

First of all I want to tell you that there is nothing, I repeat nothing wrong with kissing people you love. As you grow older, you will understand more of what I mean. Now, when your teenage hormone self re-reads this, I am not telling you that is it okay for you and Johnny-boy to be making out in public, no that is not acceptable. What I am telling you is that you should not be afraid to kiss your mother or me when you say goodbye. To date, I still kiss my mother, your grandma, every time we leave the house.

When I was in high school, after everyone of my wrestling matches, I would come off the mat and head up in the stands and kiss my mom. I think after a while it became a superstitious ritual for me, but I still showed her love in front of all my friends…and guess what? Nobody cared or thought it was weird. As a matter of fact, I think it brought more of the team together, they started loving on their parents as well.

Lastly, I want to leave you with this. I will kiss your mother anywhere, anytime, period. I love her more than the air I breath. I want you to always know, that when you are in love, kissing in public is okay. Again, I don’t want people thinking you are weird and “making out” is not acceptable, but, hugging and kissing will always be okay. Don’t let anyone tell you different and don’t let some jerk boyfriend of yours change you to think this has to be done only inside the home and out of sight.

I love you Arizona,

Love Dad.

Dear Arizona – Month One (Singing)

Dear Arizona,

There is so much I want to tell you. So many things I can’t wait to do with you. I know I’m rushing things just a bit, but I can’t wait until you start talking and eventually singing. By the time you are old enough to read this, you will no doubtedly wonder why I feel this way. Well I can tell you this, singing in our family is essential to our everyday life.

As you grow older, you will soon discover how singing makes our family a happy family. Your dad loves to sing, in fact you can tell what kind of mood I am in just by the singing alone. I have been known to walk around the house just singing songs. I sing in the shower, in the car, and when I married your mother, my bachelor party was at a karaoke bar! (That’s where adults go to sing)

Your brother LOVES to sing. He sings every song that comes on the car and when we play music in the mornings, you will find him singing as well. One thing I hope you take from your brother is the love of all music and all types of singing.

Your mother has the most angelic voice I have ever heard. She sings you to sleep and just hearing her sing warms my head. Your mom loves to sing as well, she loves to karaoke and even though she thinks she sounds horrible, I love it. One reason I love her so much. When we drive in the car she harmonizes with me and we laugh a lot.

All we wanted was YOU!

As I told you before, your dear ole dad is a songbird. For me it started when I was young, I’ve always loved to sing. In high school I was in choir and I had the lead role in the musical “Grease”. I think I sound good and I’ve been singing karaoke since my college years!

One of my favorite things to do is sing to you. You may not remember it right now, but I sing you to sleep most nights, I make up songs and sing classics. One of my favorite songs to sing to you is “Sweet Child O Mine” by Guns N Roses. While I do love the original version, I sing to you a slower version, much like this video. The lyrics just fit perfectly with our family. In fact when I first started singing to you, I would cry just looking at you out of sheer happiness and being overwhelmed that you actually came into our lives.

Here is a version I really like:

Here is another version I also dig!

I know this is a long letter, but most of all I want to tell you, if you love to sing, then sing. It doesn’t matter if you sound good or not, express your joy in the world through song. Some people will say they whistle while they work, well I do both, but singing out loud while doing anything is fun and makes me feel good. Don’t listen to anyone who tries to take that fire or passion away from you. And if you don’t like to sing, well that’s okay too.

Happy one month old birthday sweetheart, I love you.

Love Dad.

Dear Arizona – Hello; from Dad

Dear Arizona,

As the time grows closer for you to enter this world, I often think whether or not I will be a good father. I hope I am the man you need and I can live up to the idea I have in my mind of what a father should be. I hold myself up to a high standard and I hope that I live up to the expectations I have set for myself. While I know there is a sediment that most new dads want to live up to the standard their fathers set before them, in this new day and age, I want to exceed that standard and I know I will simply because we are totally different people. Our family hugs, we kiss, we cuddle, and we tell each other often how much we love each other. You are coming into my life and you have no idea how you are about to change my entire world.

I bet you are wondering what this letter is about or even why I am writing it. I have decided to write you something for your entire life. It may be just a note here or there or it might be a full blow letter. Maybe a life lesson or two or the background and history of our family.

So here is my first entry and I just wanted to say hello. Hello my beautiful daughter, this is dad. I am going to be your biggest fan, supporter, and champion you will ever have. You will never wonder if or how much I love you. You are my miracle, my greatest creation and the best thing I have ever done. I will protect you and I will never hurt you. I hope one day you will tell your children how awesome I was/am and as the saying goes, you will definitely be daddy’s girl.

I can’t wait to meet you, to kiss you, hug you, and sing to you every day. Hello Arizona, this is dad, I love you.

Dad