Two months and I can not begin to tell you how much you have changed my life. I will probably say this everytime I write a post about you this year, but everytime it will be true. I am still in awe of this little human I created with your mom and how you grow every day. I can’t stop hugging and kissing on you and when I am hugging you, I feel like I need to use my bear hug as a shield to protect you from everything.
Wow…two months old and you are growing like crazy. It is hard to look back and imagine you being born at a mear 5lbs. It is the beginning of July and you already take after your mother and me. You love to be outside in the warm air and in the pool. You also love to be naked, which is probably par for the course because if it wasn’t for you kiddos, I would be too. Your mother and I love the sun also, we worship the sun in the summers and love the outdoors.
It’s been a busy month two for you, you ran with your mom in three (3) 5k races, finishing in 3rd place in one (age group), your grandparents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary, and you were at your first Star Wars laser light show and orchestra. You even slept through the fireworks!
I titled this months words of wisdom “Hugs and Kisses” because I want you to know one thing; always believe it is okay to hug and kiss others, especially family and friends. I grew up in a fairly affectionate family. We hug a lot, I still kiss my mom when I say goodbye and I always tell my parents and your mom, your brother, and you, that I love you. I want you to know that it is okay to have your heart on your sleeve. Hug your friends and more than anything hug your family.
When I grew up in Michigan, friends didn’t hug each other all that much. It wasn’t until I moved to Texas where it was socially acceptable to hug your friends. Especially for men to hug, it makes some people uneasy, but I don’t care and if you are my friend, I will hug you. I want you to have a family of your own one day and I hop you hug and kiss your children. I hope you always know you were loved and that we show you as well as tell you. I hope you never outgrow hugging your dear old dad or never get too “cool” to do so. I remember in high school after my wrestling matches, I would always go up in the stands and hug my mom. When I got my first dirt bike, I ran and jump into a bear hug with my dad. I hope you do these things things as well.
We have a family of love, we hug, we kiss, we cuddle during movies, and we always let the others know how we feel, especially when leaving for the day for school or work. Just know it is okay and never be ashamed or embarrassed to tell us in front of others. I hope you always feel safe when hugging me or your mom and I hope as you become a mother yourself, you never stop hugging your own children.
Funny story I have to share, on the day you were born, I could not wait to hold you. In fact I knew all about the skin contact and how important it was to bond with your baby. When they asked me if I was ready, I was in the chair, with my shirt off (yes skin to skin is very important) ready to go!!
First of all I want to tell you that there is nothing, I repeat nothing wrong with kissing people you love. As you grow older, you will understand more of what I mean. Now, when your teenage hormone self re-reads this, I am not telling you that is it okay for you and Johnny-boy to be making out in public, no that is not acceptable. What I am telling you is that you should not be afraid to kiss your mother or me when you say goodbye. To date, I still kiss my mother, your grandma, every time we leave the house.
When I was in high school, after everyone of my wrestling matches, I would come off the mat and head up in the stands and kiss my mom. I think after a while it became a superstitious ritual for me, but I still showed her love in front of all my friends…and guess what? Nobody cared or thought it was weird. As a matter of fact, I think it brought more of the team together, they started loving on their parents as well.
Lastly, I want to leave you with this. I will kiss your mother anywhere, anytime, period. I love her more than the air I breath. I want you to always know, that when you are in love, kissing in public is okay. Again, I don’t want people thinking you are weird and “making out” is not acceptable, but, hugging and kissing will always be okay. Don’t let anyone tell you different and don’t let some jerk boyfriend of yours change you to think this has to be done only inside the home and out of sight.
I love you Arizona,